Hypothetically Speaking...
Say one is rather grumpy with one's spouse and one decides to channel said anger into scrubbing rather than raging or sulking or crying and one actually manages to accomplish a few household tasks in the process before one stops to hyperventilate for a while.
I'd just like to know for reference - if one's spouse should undertake to thank one for the aforementioned work which, it must be said, feels a bit as if it were done under duress - would it be unjustly churlish to not appreciate that?
posted by kittenpie @ 9:06 PM
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All housework performed by a spouse should be recongnised and appreciated. Doubly so if the work is done to release anger created by the other spouse.
Ha! Probably worse if said spouse had failed to thank one for the anger-scrubbing. There is no right answer here: to acknowledge the scrubbing is to say 'Hey, I profit from your anger! Thanks!" To not acknowledge the scrubbing is to profit from the anger-scrubbing without even the possibility of noticing one's implication in it ... :-)
It would be worse if it wasn't noticed.
Anger at the spouse seems to be going around these days...
All housework should be recognized and rewarded, in my opinion. No matter how it originated.
Yes, it should be noticed and commented upon...and flowers and/or Timbits don't hurt either.
I do my best cleaning when I'm pissed off at a certain someone. If it's not noticed I tend to get more po'd. By now a certain someone has learned to give the appropriate compliment and I, in turn, am learning to accept them graciously. Just one woman's real life experience.
I come completely undone if the spouse does not notice. If he thought I was mad before, he ain't seen nothin' yet ;)
he should be down on his knees thanking you....
Hunh. This is the strangest thing - we are normally big on thanking each other for household tasks, but I really didn't want to be thanked for that. Really. And I guess he knows me well enough that he knew to leave it alone, though he did offer to scrub the bathtub when he saw me eying it as my next victim, er, project, so that gets points.
I have no idea what you're talking about here but I can say without a doubt that you are right and he is wrong.
No doubt about it.
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